I am currently in a situation with someone who i have loved and been intimate for years. i also have a bestfriend that is extremely close and we are getting closer. we share the same interest and then i decided to connect them so that we could work together professionally as coaches (for basketball ) . however i expressed to the person that i had loved that i wanted a boundary to be kept with my bestfriend. The boundary was not kept and put me in a horribly uncomfortable situation that is still occurring . So it’s been challenging and im not sure what to do because im uncomfortable with them hanging out alone … i trust my bestfriend. but i don’t trust the love because he already wasn’t honest. oh a point to add is that the past love is still one of my closest friends in which we share a promise to always be honest. so i have a conundrum. Stand to my boundary and then require it to be respected — if it’s not i’ll have to move accordingly. Or just let it go because it’s not worth my energy and I should just trust whatever happens to be respectful … idk. any thoughts?